Counselling and Psychotherapy
Ontario, Canada
Psychotherapy
Spencer Wai-Lun Wheeler (they/he)
Registered Social Worker
A relational space for those ready to shift their lens — exploring depth, expanded states, and the connections that reshape how we experience ourselves and the world.
About the practice
Each of us inhabits a world shaped entirely by our own perception — our history, our wounds, our longings, the stories we have learned to tell about ourselves. Your world is real, and it is uniquely yours.
And yet, something quietly profound happens when two worlds meet. In genuine relationship, perspectives touch and begin to shift. We become newly aware of what has always been present and what has long been absent. A slightly different way of seeing becomes possible — not because anything outside has changed, but because something between us has.
This is what I mean by the worlds between. The relational space we build together is not simply the backdrop to therapy — it is the therapy itself. It is the place where your world is truly seen, genuinely heard, and met without judgment. From that foundation, insight becomes possible. Change becomes possible.
The world we live in shapes how we are perceived and how we perceive — and the world's relationship to us can be hostile, for some more than others. Mental health challenges are in many ways a systemic creation, one that keeps us detached and unable to fully engage with life and with each other. Part of this work is helping you shed the weight of that world — a weight that individualistic cultures place on each of us, quietly expecting the next generation to carry it forward.
You do not have to carry that weight alone. Many people find their way to this work when the world they are living in no longer feels like their own — when they feel stuck, disconnected, or quietly aware that something needs to shift. Whatever brings you here, my commitment is to meet you in that space with presence and care, and to walk alongside you as you begin to see your world, and yourself, anew.
My world
"Hope is like a lighthouse."
Old-school traditional therapy training often taught me that I had to keep my world completely hidden — that any self-disclosure is harmful to the therapeutic relationship. Therapists of my generation tend to share a little more of themselves. Is there really a right way to do this? Depends who you ask. All I know is that this is my way of doing things, and it feels right to me — and to the people who decide to work with me.
My world has changed quite a bit throughout the years. I've gone from being an AMAB cisgender half-Chinese, half-White straight-acting and closeted bisexual atheist in high school, to becoming a deeply repressed business student, to having my world blown apart by psychedelics and emerging as a spiritual, pansexual, genderfluid (he/they) registered social worker with an MSW. From there, I let go of the things that other people wanted me to be. I was a prime people-pleaser — still am, to some extent. Throughout that time I also developed CPTSD and vast amounts of relational trauma connected to my queer identity. These are all just labels of course. Inherently, my core self is a lot more difficult to describe. Everyone has their core self and to describe this feeling with words would almost be a disservice.
The thing that carried me through all of those moments is hope. Not the kind of hope that promises everything will be okay — but the quiet, stubborn kind that simply refuses to stop believing there is a way forward, no matter what life throws at you. I needed that kind of hope. I still do.
Hope, to me, is like a lighthouse. There are times when it is hard to find — when the fog is thick, or its light happens to be shining in another direction. But it always comes back around. And in that moment, something in you knows: the lighthouse is still there. The shore is still reachable. That is my guiding principle in this work — the deep belief that no matter where you are right now, we can find our way back to that shore, together.
My approach
"The relationship is the launchpad."
At the heart of this work is the belief that the therapeutic relationship itself is the primary vehicle for change. Before any technique — there is the relationship between us. From that foundation, we can explore what needs to move.
I use a trauma-informed, anti-oppressive, and client-centered approach to support my clients in integrating their experiences and working through trauma. This means I honour your resilience, centre your lived experience, and remain attuned to the broader social and systemic contexts that shape your world.
The primary lens through which I work is Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. IFS offers a compassionate framework for understanding the different parts of ourselves — including the parts that carry pain, shame, or protective patterns developed long ago. Through this process, we work together to process and integrate trauma from your past, so that you can release what is holding you back in your everyday life. Over time, you will begin to reconnect with your core Self — and with it, a renewed sense of compassion, curiosity, and joy toward life and your relationships.
I also draw on Narrative Therapy, which invites you to examine the stories you have been told — and have told yourself — about who you are. By separating the person from the problem, Narrative Therapy creates space to author a new story: one that reflects your values, your strengths, and the life you actually want to be living.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is another modality I integrate into our work. ACT supports you in developing psychological flexibility — learning to relate differently to difficult thoughts and emotions rather than being controlled by them, and moving toward a life guided by your deepest values rather than your fears.
What I offer
All services are offered with deep respect for the therapeutic relationship and a commitment to safe, ethical, evidence-informed practice.
Available for virtual sessions:
Monday 11 AM – 7 PM
Tuesday 11 AM – 7 PM
Thursday 11 AM – 7 PM
Clinical Rates
$135 – 50min Intake Session
$135 – 50min Session
$190 – 80min Session
$250 – 80min Couples Intake Session
$170 – 50min Couples Session
$240 – 80min Couples Session
Sliding scale rates are available.
A relational space for individuals navigating depression, anxiety, trauma, identity, addiction, and relationship difficulties. Using IFS, Narrative Therapy, and ACT, we work together to process what is holding you back and reconnect you with a life that feels like your own.
Available nowSupportive therapy for couples and polycules navigating conflict, communication challenges, intimacy, or relationship transitions. I am Level 1 certified in the Gottman Method — an evidence-based approach that builds deeper understanding, trust, and connection between partners.
Gottman MethodWhile psychedelics are not necessarily legal at this time, the reality is that many Canadians are currently using psychedelics without proper integration of these experiences. These sessions offer a grounded, non-judgmental space to integrate insights, process difficult material, and move forward with clarity and intention.
Available nowA no-pressure 20-minute conversation to explore whether we are a good fit. I welcome your questions about the work, my approach, and what to expect from the process.
Book belowCredentials
Master of Social Work (MSW)
Graduated from University of Toronto (2024)
Honours Specialization in Psychology
Graduated from Western University (2021)
Advanced Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy Certified by ATMA CENA
Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1 Certified
Registered Social Worker with the Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers
OCSWSSW #858302
Member of the Ontario Association of Social Workers
OASW #27384
Reach out
Reaching out is the first step. Whether you have specific questions or simply want to explore whether this work is right for you, I welcome your message.
I respond to all inquiries within two business days. All contact is confidential.
